A Woman Is No Man: A Read with Jenna Pick
by Etaf Rum
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A Goodreads Choice Awards Finalist for Best Fiction and Best Debut - BookBrowse's Best Book of the Year - A Marie Claire Best Women's Fiction of the Year - A Real Simple Best Book of the Year - A PopSugar Best Book of the Year - A New York Times Book Review Editors' Choice - A Washington Post 10 Books to Read in March - A Newsweek Best Book of the Summer - A USA Today Best Book of the Week - A Washington Book Review Difficult-To-Put-Down Novel - A Refinery 29 Best Books of the Month - A Buzzfeed News 4 Books We Couldn't Put Down Last Month - A New Arab Best Books by Arab Authors - An Electric Lit 20 Best Debuts of the First Half of 2019 - A The Millions Most Anticipated Books of the Year
"Garnering justified comparisons to Khaled Hosseini's A Thousand Splendid Suns... Etaf Rum's debut novel is a must-read about women mustering up the bravery to follow their inner voice." --Refinery 29
The New York Times bestseller and Read with Jenna TODAY SHOW Book Club pick telling the story of three generations of Palestinian-American women in a gripping family saga, each struggling to express their individual desires within the confines of their Arab culture in the wake of shocking intimate violence in their community.
"Where I come from, we've learned to silence ourselves. We've been taught that silence will save us. Where I come from, we keep these stories to ourselves. To tell them to the outside world is unheard of--dangerous, the ultimate shame."
Palestine, 1990. Seventeen-year-old Isra prefers reading books to entertaining the suitors her father has chosen for her. Over the course of a week, the naïve and dreamy girl finds herself quickly betrothed and married, and is soon living in Brooklyn. There Isra struggles to adapt to the expectations of her oppressive mother-in-law Fareeda and strange new husband Adam, a pressure that intensifies as she begins to have children--four daughters instead of the sons Fareeda tells Isra she must bear.
Brooklyn, 2008. In a poignant coming of age story, eighteen-year-old Deya, Isra's oldest daughter, must meet with potential husbands at her grandmother Fareeda's insistence, though her only desire is to go to college. Deya can't help but wonder if her options would have been different had her parents survived the car crash that killed them when Deya was only eight. But her grandmother is firm on the matter: the only way to secure a worthy future for Deya is through marriage to the right man.
But fate has a will of its own, and soon Deya will find herself on an unexpected path that leads her to shocking truths and long-buried family secrets--knowledge that will force her to question everything she thought she knew about her parents, the past, and her own future.
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Book Details
- ISBN
- 9780062699770
- Binding
- Paperback
- Authors
- Etaf Rum
- Publisher
- Harper Perennial
- Published Date
- February 4, 2020
- Language
- English
- Pages
- 352
- Physical Info
- 1.1 in H x 7.9 in L x 5.2 in W (0.65 lb)

I want to cry, I’m mad, I’m sad, I’m happy, I’m heartbroken, frustrated, confused. I want to give every woman in this book a hug and every man a million punches to the brain.
This is a novel every woman should read; it is a warning of how traditions can become so rigid that no matter how miserable the women are in their society's practices that they have little chance of escape as they have no credit, no education, and no income. It is a sad, ugly novel of marriage practices and sexual gender that spans three generations. It has warnings that even American women should be aware of when they long for what they feel was a more idyllic past.
Ms. Rum gathered up incredible courage to write a very important work about three generations of women caught in a cycle of shame and silence. She opens a window for us to catch a glimpse of the world of many Arabic women and allows the world to understand why such a life is perpetuated, even as we struggle, in our open societies, to understand why they stay. I wish this book was required reading for everyone so somehow we might help stop the succession of flawed thinking in Arabic society. Thank you, Etaf Rum!
The last 25% of this book was repetitive,a kind of Deja vu.Then it ended abruptly.Writing was style was mediocre.The glimpse into Palestinian life was sad yet interesting for the first 20%,then enough.Don’t waste you money or eyesight
The book was really informative and eye opening. It really shows how hard it is for women to have a voice. I think it was important for this book to be written. It is a book of fiction, but it reads like a nonfiction book. You do begin to see how this book has needed to be written for all women that are silenced in all aspects of life.
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